good manners

A NOTE ON GOOD MANNERS

You may already know these points, kindly remember to practice them

1. Greet anybody you meet according to the time of the day.
2. Say Thank You, when somebody offers you something.
3. If you decline the offer say, No Thanks.
4. Be polite. Use the word Please, wherever required, and it costs you nothing.
5. Say Excuse Me, when you are likely to disturb someone.
6. Whenever you feel that you have made mistake, say Sorry, even if it is to your juniors.
7. When you use common facilities like wash basin, dining table, toilet , newspaper etc ,leave it as neat and fresh as possible after your use (especially in public places like hotel, train etc)
8. When you are eating with others, start eating only after everybody has been served in the table in which you are sitting.
9. Do not talk with your mouth full while you are eating
10. Be considerate to others. Try to understand their viewpoint. You need not accept it. But try to understand.
11. Be punctual.Dont make others wait for you.
12. Honour all commitments you make. Deliver what you promise.
13.When you are the host offer refreshment/food to your visitors ,as appropriate.
14.Do not speak to others near you ,while you are on the phone with somebody else

my grandpa

Recently I visited my ancestral village when I went to Tuticorin for an audit.
My aunt gave me a dining plate used by my grandfather as a memento for me to keep and we were discussing about his life and times
I am named after him and he has played a great role in shaping my world views at a very young age
His usual views were (WHATEVER I REMEMBER NOW)

1. WHAT CANNOT BE CURED,  HAS TO BE ENDURED.EVEN IF IT IS A SHREW OF A WIFE
2. IT TAKES TWO HANDS TO CLAP. IF YOU DO NOT JOIN AN ARGUMENT, THEN THERE WILL BE NO NOISE
3. LEND YOUR EARS TO A MAN IN DISTRESS.THAT IS A GREAT HELP YOU CAN GIVE HIM.HIS LOAD ON HIS HEART WILL  BE LIGHTER
4. ENJOY LIFE. DO NOT BE A CRY BABY.ENJOYMENT SHOULD BE APPROPRIATE TO YOUR AGE, SITUATION AND YOUR STATION IN LIFE .DO NOT GET TIED TO ANY ENJOYMENT.
5. WHENEVER SOMEBODY CRIES IN A FUNERAL/HEARSE , IT IS NOT FOR THE DEAD PERSON , BUT ABOUT ONE'S OWN SORROWS
6. NOBODY KNOWS WHAT IS INSIDE A CLOSED FIST.SO KEEP SOMETHING CLOSED ABOUT YOURSELF
7. MONEY IS TO BE SPENT FOR GOOD PURPOSE,NOT HOARDED
8. KEEP  LEARNING ALWAYS(HE LEARNT GUJARATI BECAUSE IT WAS HIS EMPLOYER’S MOTHER TONGUE AND HE KEPT HIS CONFIDENTIAL DIARY NOTINGS IN GUJARATI ONLY TILL HIS END)
9. HAVE SOMETHING GOOD /PLEASANT TO SAY WHEN YOU MEET PEOPLE.LIFT THEIR SPIRITS
10. WHENEVER YOU COMMUNICATE SOMETHING,KEEP IN MIND WHAT THE RECIEVER IS ANXIOUS TO KNOW
11. NO CALAMITY  IS THE END OF LIFE,ALWAYS THERE ARE NEW BEGINNINGS
12. TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOUR APPEARANCE WHILE YOU MEET PEOPLE