another training instance

One morning , two weeks back , I started a training of officers,  in a process plant requesting that they should be available for the full duration of the training , in body and mind (duration half day ) and if any body wants to go in between , it is better to leave now

I made one exception, if there is an emergency, they can go .(I said this because ,the training was being conducted in the premises of the plant and due to my earlier experiences in such settings)

Immediately one of them said he has to go to the plant as afternoon there was some work he had.

Another said ," we have more than 20 years of experience and  are sufficiently mature to take the decision themselves.We feel the importance of the training  and that is why we have come  .Nobody has to remind us about it and we are not children"

Both of them had a an aggressive body language and wanted  to make their point forcefully  .Unmimdful of the effect they having on the setting/mood of the training at the outset.

Somehow there were other saner persons and together we defused the situation.

Any way it left a bad taste at the beginning itself.

Both the people however sat throughout the training for the half day 

what to make of this?

about forgiving

An acquaintance of mine took a loan from me a year back

.When he wanted money, I could muster only  a portion of what he requested.

.He had promised that by Onam that year, would return it.

He is not beggar by any standard .
He never returned the money

He and his wife together may be earning at least Rs1 lakh per month

Last week he called me over phone and said among other things that he had indeed taken a loan from me but returned it soon after.

Though I knew him since 1997, he behaved this way to me .

For a few days I was feeling very bad and I wanted to get back at him.

As Valluvar says  " you can measure people by their behavior in your tough times"

Then I realized, we cannot change people, but we can only be more careful.

I decided to forgive him and also to keep a deliberate distance after that .

As they say in English, "Cheat me once, shame on you, Cheat me twice, shame on me"

Any way I feel fate would have eased me off the burden of Rs5000/- that day by any other means also if it is in my Kismet .